“Never give in – never, never, never, never, in nothing great or small, large or petty, never give in except to convictions of honor and good sense. Never yield to force; never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.” – Winston Churchill
My two decades of experience serving as a Navy Seal, combined with my thirty years studying martial arts, have allowed me to interact with some of the most incredible human beings that this planet has to offer. I have witnessed these people attain feats and overcome seemingly insurmountable odds, not because of their physicality, their strength or speed, no… it was their mental fortitude.
I am a firm believer in the mantra, ‘Mind over body,’ in that, your mental strength is far more important than any physical abilities you may or may not possess. Mental fortitude plays an intrinsic part of any leadership role.
In our life, when the metaphorical game is on the line, we need to train ourselves to not just want the final shot, the pressure, the high stakes, but to demand it, to own the moment. We need to recognize that every negative – pressure, challenges, critiques – are all opportunities for us to rise above.
Although the vast majority of us will never have to take an actual game-winning shot, we all have challenges and obstacles that require mental fortitude and emotional resilience. Especially for those in leadership roles, mental toughness allows you to make decisions that others might not have the courage or wherewithal to undertake.
So, what are some of the characteristics of a mentally tough leader?
A mentally tough leader is calm under pressure. As the water rises and while everyone else is running around like a chicken with their head cut off, they remain calm, assess the situation and then make the best possible move not just for themselves, but for their team. They remain engaged and connected to the situation even as the pressure rises.
When we were in battle, with bullets whizzing overhead and explosions every which way, it was paramount that whoever was in charge remained calm despite the life-threatening nature of the situation. Bad choices are made by those who allow the situation to get bigger than themselves. Effective decisions makers remain calm and make the best move they possibly can with the given options. This is why our training on the Big 4 of Mental Toughness is so popular with leaders at my SEALFIT and Unbeatable Mind events.
Take The Burden on Themselves
Owning each and every situation, both the good and the bad, is a hallmark of someone who is mentally tough. They want that shot, that responsibility, that pressure. They believe in their ability to overcome whatever odds or challenges. Even if they fail, a mentally fit leader will take stock, see what they did wrong, learn from it and then move past it. They know how to effectively overcome negative thoughts.
Heightened State of Awareness of Others
A master craftsman not only knows his trade backwards and forwards, he knows and values his tools and utilizes them in the most effective way possible. Mentally tough leaders know that they cannot do everything and that they must work in tandem with their team to be at their very best.
A good leader not only has great self-awareness but is also intimately aware of their team’s strengths and weaknesses and then puts them in the optimal positions for success that highlight their strengths and minimize their weaknesses.
“Embrace The Suck”
They don’t whimper, they don’t whine, they say, “Bring it on.” Be it early morning training for a marathon or doing extra late night research for that one client you have, mentally fit leaders, “Embrace the suck.” Championships may be won on the court, but they are built in the gym, in the film room, in studying and training… in the small, unexciting things, the ones that no one sees.
A mentally fit leader not only embraces the tough or unrewarding moments, they smile while they do so because of the impact it has on other people around them. This type of mentality rubs off, it becomes infectious. When you are working out, don’t stop at ten reps, don’t be satisfied with the bare minimum. Embrace the suck. Say, “One more rep.” or “One more cold call.”
If you want to develop or strengthen your mental fortitude, I created a paradigm called the ‘Big Four’ of mental toughness. I use it when I’m training SEAL candidates. The big four include breath control exercises, mental control exercises, visualizing success, and setting SMART goals.
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AWESOME INFORMATION. THANKS.I WILL APPLY TO MY LIFE SITUATIONS.
I found your book “Unbeatable Mind” by accident and bought it because I had the feeling that I miss something in my life.
My general question is very simple and I just ask “if my mind controls my body” why do I need all these exercises?
My details which are not be very interesting for your readers(just my mind set):
I was born 1962 in Austria, in a very strict military background. One of my grandfathers was special commander of SS
in the second world war and on permanent covered missions in Asia. When I went to elementary school my father told
me about the bad people in Kaukasus and China wanted to kill German soldiers.
My answer: What has Germany to do there?
I always got beaten up for my answers. So I became a rebel, first architect, visiting NC State University, later real estate
manager with a certificate from Cambridge UK. Self development always was important by meditation, reading…. but
I never had the motivation for physical exercise. Yes I know the feeling if I run for 30 min. and come into the flow. I
just came back from a holiday in Thailand. When I move there on a waterfall, jumping from rock to rock I really have
fun and maybe can understand moving the body.
Other than that I never developed joy doing exercise. I have joy when I stay in nature, watching the clouds and my mind
is running with new ideas. But still I have the feeling that “maybe I miss something”. Maybe I just want to stay in my
Is there any good argument that regular practice of my body would significant stimulate my status? I already discussed
this question with many experts. I am 55 years old, look like 40 and people always ask me about my work out.
I can imagine that my mind setting is quit shocking for you, sorry for my ignorance.
But, I am still open minded and would like to widen my daily routine.
PS: And I am not a pussy! With 19 years I was mountain ranger in my country, survived the Tsunami 2006? on the beach,
homeless 2009-2010 and enjoy a happy life today.
Just went through a huge brain injury and surgery — family members were told I wasn’t going to live — 12 weeks in the hospital — home now and back at work — your information is on target — I just wrote out much of your blog and hungry for more– I’m not 100% yet, but I am 100% better. Thank you! Candace
Brilliant “Absolutely” Brilliant.